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Another field of decolonization we need to be aware of concerns modes of present-day social interaction and interpersonal conduct, which is heavily based on Western social norms as a consequence of the colonial era. Please post whatever you notice around you in daily life which falls under this category.
As a romantic, one thing that I have always intuitively despised is people dating again after widowhood. It is betrayal of the deceased spouse. I first noticed this phenomenon during childhood when I watched dating game shows on TV featuring widowed old people, which seemed like a celebration of a phenomenon which I had previously (naively) presumed should at the very least be considered shameful. But then I started doing research and realized that Western marriage vows tacitly endorse this behaviour by implying that the vow ends with the death of either spouse:
www.theknot.com/content/traditional-wedding-vows-from-various-religionsBasic Protestant Vows
"I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you."
Episcopal
"______, wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wedded wife/husband to live together after God's ordinance in the Holy Estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her/him? Comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others keep thee only unto her/him as long as you both shall live?"
"In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow."
Methodist
"Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and keep her/him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live?"
"In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow."
Presbyterian
"______, wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wife/husband, and wilt thou pledge thy faith to him/her, in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all faith and tenderness, to live with her/him, and cherish her/him, according to the ordinance of God, in the holy bond of marriage?"
"I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wedded wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife, in plenty and want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live."
Lutheran
"I take you, ______, to be my wife/husband from this day forward, to join with you and share all that is to come, and I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us."
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Catholic Wedding Vows
"I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part."
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Eastern Orthodox Wedding Vows
Many branches of the Orthodox church use silent vows during the ceremony -- an introspective prayer in which the couple promises to be loyal and loving to each other. In the Russian tradition, however, vows are spoken out loud:
"I, ___, take you, ___, as my wedded wife/husband and I promise you love, honor and respect; to be faithful to you, and not to forsake you until death do us part. So help me God, one in the Holy Trinity and all the Saints."
Wtf? If love ends with physical death of the (supposed) beloved, it was never love at all! Yet the above Western barbarism is what gets recited millions of times per day, now even in secular weddings in originally non-Western (but Westernized) countries, taken for granted as the standard format. This is unacceptable.
I have also encountered numerous instances of fictional portrayals of characters starting new "romances" (oxymoron) after widowhood, cast in a positive light. (And in real life it is even more degenerate, with Westerners openly talking like: "I would definitely pursue [name] if my husband/wife died." even while their spouses are still alive!)
In contrast, non-Western civilizations at least culturally looked down on such behaviour (despite its inevitable occurrence in practice due to the inferiority of the majority of all historical populations), and instead venerate (at least in fiction) the opposite behavious ie. continuing fidelity to the deceased spouse. This is what we need to get back to.
WESTERN CIVILIZATION MUST DIE!
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On that, I never understood how someone could have more than one romantic companion in general. I know a sizable amount of people who've had at least five "girlfriends"/"boyfriends" throughout their lives, and I know that this isn't uncommon... Like how do people split up all that lifeforce and feeling? At what point does having a relationship with someone just become a mere hobby?
Also: strip clubs need to be purified with fire. Another Western tradition I know of is when a Groom goes to a stripclub the night before getting married in a "bachelor party". This comedy skit that I watched a few years back pretty much sums it up:
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"I never understood how someone could have more than one romantic companion in general."
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monogamy#Serial_monogamy
A pair of humans may remain sexually exclusive, or monogamous, until the relationship has ended and then each may go on to form a new exclusive pairing with a different partner. This pattern of serial monogamy is common among people in Western cultures.[90][91]
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in order to monopolize periods of more than one female’s reproductive life span without being considered polygamous and thus breaking social norms of a monogamous society, males try to remarry women younger than themselves. A study done in 1994 found a significant difference between ages of remarried men and women because the men have a longer reproductive window.[92][93]
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keturah
Keturah (Hebrew: קְטוּרָה, Ktura, possibly meaning "incense"[1]) was a concubine[2] and wife[3] of the Biblical patriarch Abraham. According to the Book of Genesis, Abraham married Keturah after the death of his first wife, Sarah. Abraham and Keturah had six sons.[3]
I remember watching Titanic in which we are sold a supposed story of true love, and yet we are told that after Jack died Rose went and married some other guy, which totally cheapened the main arc in my mind. (From a more detached perspective it's still a good movie, though, in the sense that it accurately reflects colonial-era Westerners' low standards of romance and their own obliviousness to this. The only question is whether or not this was intentional. (Considering that Cameron himself married five times, probably not.))
What annoys me is when rightists claim that romantic love is exclusive(!!!) to Western civilization.....
"how do people split up all that lifeforce and feeling?"
I have always maintained that anyone who reproduces with their supposed romantic partner does not truly love the partner, as attention would have to be thereafter diverted to the children. (This is one example of how romanticism complements Gnosticism.)
"Another Western tradition I know of is when a Groom goes to a stripclub the night before getting married in a "bachelor party"."
Yes, but at least this one isn't glorified in art (at least as far as I have encountered). The comedy skit that you posted portrays it as is something to laugh at, which is where it should remain.
"strip clubs need to be purified with fire."
There is a difference between despising something and believing it should be made illegal. The latter, being violent, requires a much higher standard of justification, specifically that it is retaliation to an initiated violence. Strip clubs do not initiate violence so long as everything that goes on there is voluntary. To make illegal what is not violent is totalitarianism, a charge which we as autocrats must take especial care to avoid.
I have no problem with strip clubs existing, as they can function as a quality filter by observing who its customers are. For example, anyone with dignity would surely cancel a marriage if the potential spouse was willing to go to a strip club the night before. But if strip clubs did not exist, the same person would be denied the information that their potential spouse was someone who would do this (because the option to do so would be unavailable), and thus end up erroneously marrying someone who would have been rejected if only more information had been available.
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"The positive views on polygamy is not restricted to Western civilisation, nor is re-marriage after death restricted to Christianity. In Islam, for instance, polygamy is condoned"
Are you here solely to waste my time? Polygamy, like it or not, is at least candid. Serial monogamy, in contrast, is an irreverent mockery of what monogamy is supposed to be. Multiple simultaneous spouses of the same person at least get to know for sure that their spouse does not love (any of) them exclusively, and hence respond accordingly based on accurate information (same as the person whose spouse goes to a strip club bachelor party). There is no deception going on. On the other hand, the spouse of a serial monogamist is successfully fooled until death into believing their spouse loves them exclusively, and hence respond lifelong based on an incomplete impression. Which is worse?
Moreover, voluntary monogamy in a society where polygamy is legal is of greater romantic significance than monogamy in a society where polygamy is illegal, as the monogamous couple in the former case can confirm that their spouse is not merely tolerating monogamy for the sake of avoiding legal repercussions. For this reason, a society in which polygamy is legal is actually more romance-friendly than a society in which polygamy is illegal. (So here too we see how the Western civilization has been diluting romance around the world by promoting the outlawing of polygamy!)
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I've never dated, or been in a relationship. I've always been repulsed by both notions. I would make an exception for someone very special, and if that person died before me I'd probably never do either again.
When I hear most westerners talk about relationships it literally makes me physically nauseous!
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Parents with low self-esteem condition their offspring to be social Westerners:
Watching the children - victims of their colonized parents and the neocon teachers - in their colonial-era Western outfits affecting colonial-era Western mannerisms is just depressing. Handshakes are notoriously unhygienic. Knives and forks are for meat-heavy diets. And the walking style is a bad joke.
That teacher being interviewed is bullshitting, of course. Since when did "abroad" mean exclusively the West? Why must "adaptation" to "an international environment" be Eurocentric? Where are the classes on Islamic etiquette, for example? And even if such classes existed, would these same parents pay for them? (We all know the answers.)
True Left employers/contractors/clients/etc. should wherever possible deliberately reject prospective employees/businesses/etc. who display Western etiquette in favour of those who do not. WESTERN CIVILIZATION MUST DIE!
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More dripping Eurocentrism:
All civilizations around the world have their own locally developed domestic help style dating back to ancient times. Yet formerly colonized peoples overwhelmingly want to perpetuate the Western style even in their own countries. This is becoming so predictable.....
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butler#The_modern_butler
MacPherson emphasises that the number of wealthy people in China has increased particularly, creating in that country a high demand for professional butlers who have been trained in the European butlering tradition.[15] There is also increasing demand for such butlers in other Asian countries, India, and the petroleum-rich Middle East.[16][17]
WTF is wrong with them all?!?!
They should all watch this: